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The promise of the winter season is revitalization. It’s a time when things slow down. It’s a time to take inventory. A time to rest!

Have you made time to rest today? It’s in a resting mode that we notice the power of our breath! Are you holding your breath while reading this blog? I invite you to take in love and blow out fear, concern, anxiety, doubt, confusion, chaos, hurt, disease, disgust, indifference or pain!

Even leaders need to take a breath! Make time to stop and feel the power of your breath. It’s a life sustaining gift! Feel your lungs expand. Feel your heart rate quicken and then settle into a new rhythm. Notice if your thinking clears! And if you feel relaxed!

During the Fall, change is in the air. This maybe a perfect time to change or alter your connection to your breath.

Police Receive Conflict Training

From The Washington Times
Sunday, April 3, 2005

The next time a Metro Transit Police officer is tempted to arrest someone for eating a candy bar or french fry on the train the officer may think twice.

A mandatory training workshop for about 380 officers is wrapping up this week. It is designed to help officers better understand their reactions to tense situations and think of new ways to resolve conflicts. Officers said they meet downright hostile behavior from passengers almost daily, and customers who purportedly refuse to comply with officers have created some high-profile conflicts.

“There’s a different generation out there,” said Sgt. Bobbie Stifter, one of 28 officers who attended the daylong training session Friday. “With this generation, they’re not as inclined to be cooperative — they’re confrontational a lot of the times.”

But Sgt. Stifter said she’s not just talking about young people. She has run into such conflicts with 40- and 50-year-olds.

Metro hired outside consultants to conduct the conflict management training courses at a cost of about $28,000. Police Chief Polly Hanson said it has turned out to be the best training many officers have had.

It’s all about having the officers identify their dominant personality traits and conflict management styles, said Robert Pruitt, who conducted the training.

Mr. Pruitt leads officers through role-playing exercises ranging from how to deal with minor offenses such as having food on the Metro to a near riot on a Metrobus.

“Sometimes what we find is officers go into situations because of history…If we’re not aware of what we’re doing, we’ll do it the same way every time.”

Mr. Pruitt asked the officers to constantly assess what they are thinking and whether they are making the situation better or worse. But he didn’t suggest that they be less aggressive in their work.

“If it’s about survival, you just may need to,” Mr. Pruitt said.

Chief Hanson said training could change the way officers approach passengers, but she doesn’t expect significant changes.

“I don’t know that we had significant problems,” Chief Hanson said. “I just want to make sure I’m giving them every tool that they can possibly have to be the most effective.”

Metro Officers Get Tips on Smoother Trips

By Carol Morello
Washington Post Staff Writer
Saturday, April 2, 2005

In the eyes of Metro police officers, passengers on public buses and trains can be awfully belligerent.

They curse loudly, they consume food and drink, then throw the empty bottles and wrappers at the heads of other passengers. They even swing from the overhead bars. And when police step in, a passerby is likely to harangue the officer for intervening.

A group of 28 Metro police officers attending a mandatory conflict management training session yesterday heartily stepped into playing the roles of abusive passengers they say they confront almost every day. In two of three scenarios, they replicated a near-riot on a pretend bus in a conference room at the Metro administrative building.

“If anything, it’s kind of mild compared to what we’ve heard,” said Mike Pecoraro, a 14-year veteran who acted the part of a passenger ranting with profanity at his pregnant wife as they rode a bus to an appointment to which he evidently did not care to accompany her.

In the skit, Brandon Twentymon, an officer two weeks out of the academy, defused tensions with polite demeanor and language: “Is there anything I could say to convince you to step off this bus?”

Twentymon’s handling of a potentially volatile confrontation is the kind of behavior Metro managers hope to encourage.

Since Feb. 14, Metro police have been attending one-day conflict management seminars led by a Laurel company called RobertPruitt.com. By the end of next week, all of Metro’s approximately 380 officers will have attended one of the 15 classes, for which Metro paid the company $28,641.

The conflict management training is a response to several highly publicized cases last year in which Metro police officers handcuffed and arrested passengers after confrontations over food and cell phone use. A government scientist was arrested after she ate a candy bar in a Metro station. A pregnant woman was arrested after she talked back to an officer who asked her to lower her voice while making a call on a cell phone.

Metro officials invited reporters to attend the final half-hour of a conflict management session. The three role-playing scenarios involved incidents more disruptive than candy or cell phones.

In addition to the abusive, foul-mouthed husband, transit officers created a group of rowdy teenagers and several inebriated men.

Pruitt, a minister’s son who does diversity training for Montgomery County police and is married to a police officer, said he encourages officers to think about how to approach passengers and to ask themselves how important it is to get compliance. One option is to ignore it, he said he told them.

A passenger who leaves a newspaper behind is more likely to respond to a transit officer who says, “I have to ask you, please take your newspaper with you so we can keep the station clean,” Pruitt said with a smile and a pleasant voice.

The less effective alternative, he said, adopting a gruff tone, is to say, “Please take the newspaper, and I don’t want to hear anything more about it from you.”

Pruitt divides people into four personality groups — the controlling lion, the promoting peacock, the analytical owl and the supportive koala bear — and advises police officers to identify their own type, as well as the passenger’s. Pruitt says he is a classic koala.

Metro Transit Police Chief Polly L. Hanson — a lion — said she has already used the techniques she learned in the class. Recently, she recounted, she used eye contact and head movements to get a passenger to put away a beverage he brought aboard. In another incident, she roused a sleeping panhandler and, after he cursed her, she told him she had been concerned that he might be dead.

“He didn’t believe I was talking to him so nicely,” she said. “So he sat up, which was all I wanted.”

Officer William Jones tries to calm an unruly bus “passenger” played by Officer Bridgett Watson. By the end of next week, all of Metro’s officers will have attended a class on how to handle volatile situations.

Robert Pruitt, who conducted the conflict management seminars, speaks to officers during the training exercise at Metro headquarters.